Christian Grey: [Narration] Here are the terms of a binding contract between the dominant and the submissive. The fundamental purpose of this treaty is to enable subordinates to safely explore their sensuality and limitations. The dominant and submissive voices recognize that everything that happens under the terms of this treaty will be consensual, confidential and subject to the agreement and security procedures provided for by this treaty. The subject will agree with any sexual activity that seemed appropriate and pleasant by the dominant, accepting these activities described within harsh limits. The subject agrees to obtain oral contraceptives from the doctor of the dominant choice. The submissive will not be in sexual relations with anyone other than the dominant. The submissive will eat regularly in order to obtain her health and well-being from a mandatory list of foods. The submissive does not drink too much, smokes or takes recreational drugs. The subordinate must always be respectful of the dominant, and she will only address him as a gentleman, Mr. Grey or some other title, as the dominant can achieve. The sub-subordinate must not touch the dominant without its express permission.
The safe word “yellow” is used to draw the attention of the dominant to the fact that the submissive is close to its border. When the safe word “red” is pronounced, the action of the dominants will cease completely and immediately. Get your own download contract and complete it with your partner. In exchange, Christian asks Ana to subscribe for two days. In this context, submission means that Ana is undoubtedly up to all the whims of the Christian. If she does not obey, he would have the right to “punish” her by any method he chooses. This seems abominable to Ana until she learns that punishment cannot involve “emotional, physical or spiritual damage,” and there are mutually agreed “safe words” that can slow down or stop any activity at any time. She will be able to negotiate a whole list of sexual activity or punishments and decide in advance what acts she would consider and what acts she would never do. 1. It can make us aware and titled. Through the process of sexual negotiation, we encourage ourselves to think about what we would consider doing sexually and open up opportunities for sexual exploration. We are discovering new areas that are turning us on and we can draw attention to our “sexual triggers.” I was vaguely aware of the “Fifty Shades” trilogy, described in Maureen Dowd`s column as “a bondage romantic who caused hysteria, whips Long Island housewives and burns from there.” They show a dashing tycoon, Christian Grey, and the object of his strict affection, the winner Anastasia Steele.
(Only the names shout “Crushingly banal!”) When you read the novel, you have to ask yourself what your own answers might be. Would I have oral sex or do ice cream? For some, the answers are simple — “absolutely” or “absolutely not!” Other decisions may not be as clear. Just like the sexually naïve Ana, we are fascinated to discover our own answers. I encourage all those who are concerned about gender inequality to read a similar treatise in Sacher-Masoch Venus`s novel furs (the root of the word masochism). This story from 1870 shows that power contracts are not gender-specific. A wealthy baroness acts a similar contract with a potentially servile man or slave.